Another little note here. Do not let your attitude towards your children or learning get carried away in the blockage of poor learning. In other words do not let yourself be judgmental and try to carry out things in a unfair way. One of the worst things parents can do is lean too much on the older children or a child himself instead of carrying out their own responsibilities. Grandma understands it is not easy to work well enough home school and children can carry out tasks to help just don't let yourself forget that families are a lot closer if people do things together and it is a lot more fun as well as it develops a stronger relationship. Sometimes, we have to be the stronger one and be there.
Younger children especially will not be benefited by not making them be responsible themselves. It means more work on your part but it is better. Grandma's mother always said she never favored grandma's brother or sister, but being the middle child, grandma seen a lot wrong. She was always compared to her older sister and her younger brother was always the tops yet was never directed to follow the rules until he became past directing, then she got too tough in Grandma's books. However, Grandma says they always looked at it like she never did it right and her family was never up to expectations. Yet both her boys have gotten through college, in good jobs, and grew above their parents. Grandma feels Andrea has more intelligence and consideration than most women. She is proud of them all including all the nieces and nephews, grandchildren, step grandchildren, and those by marriage also as well as the step great grandchildren of her husband.